How to Teach Your Kids About Gratitude
Only recently have scientists began to study the benefits of gratitude. Vitamin G, as some like to call it, plays a critical role in happiness. It gives us energy, inspires us, and transforms us. Don’t you want to give this gift to your children?
How To Teach Children Gratitude
In her book “10 Mindful Minutes,” Goldie Hawn explains that being thankful is not a natural instinct; children need to be taught how to do it. She asks parents to be a good example to their children by thanking them often.
It is important to explain to our children why they are being praised. Another important tip is to be careful not to judge how our children express gratitude. Children younger than age seven may not fully grasp the concept. It is not what they are thankful for, but that they are learning how to express gratitude that matters. If they want to be thankful for a toy, that is okay.
Keeping a gratitude journal is the backbone of gratitude scientific research. I tried this traditional journal approach when I first learned about gratitude and it did not work for me. This is why I started my nightly ritual of the gratitude prayer with my children. That works for us, but each family needs to discover what is most effective for them.
How It Works
Why does saying thank you have so many benefits for us? When we count our blessings, we interrupt the cycle of negative and fearful thoughts, which allows the stress system in our bodies to recover. Research shows that when we are thankful, we love our lives and want to make sure we stick around long enough to enjoy them.
Also, when we receive praise from others, our brain releases the chemical dopamine, which encourages us to do more to receive such praise. This makes us want to thank others and make them feel good as well.
Benefits of Gratitude
Dr. Robert Emmons is the world’s leading scientific expert on gratitude. He conducted studies involving gratitude journals and found when people regularly engage in gratitude, they experience measurable psychological, physical, and interpersonal benefits:
- Feel better about their lives overall
- Experience higher levels of positive emotions like optimism, enthusiasm, love and happiness
- Are kinder and more generous to others
- Have fewer physical problems including pain
- Exercise more regularly and eat healthier
- Sleep better
- Visit the doctor more regularly for checkups
- Feel less stressed
- Able to cope with stress more effectively and recover more quickly from stressful situations
- Live longer – on average, being thankful adds 7 years to our lives.
Gratitude Journals: 5 Ways
Here are some creative ideas for gratitude journals. As technology changes, we should show kids how to use these tools for something positive.
Blog: My son just starting getting writing assignments in second grade using a student blog site. He loves seeing his words online and gets so excited when classmates comment on his posts. Why not set up a family gratitude journal blog (password protected, of course). You can even involve grandparents and cousins, no matter how far they live. You could introduce this idea at the Thanksgiving table and challenge everyone to submit a post each week.
Audio Recording: Children love to hear their own voices. You can have them record their journal on a phone or tablet. Once you have the recordings, you can get really creative by posting them online for others to listen to or you can even put it to music and create a song or rap using highlights.
Videos: Children also love watching videos of themselves. My daughter can spend hours watching herself on my phone. Kids will have a blast talking about what they are thankful for and watching it over and over. Maybe have them pretend to be reporters and their gratitude is the news of the day.
Drawings: For children who are more visual or artistic, ask them to draw or paint what they are thankful for at the time. You can then put the artwork together in a book organized by month or year. Create your own handmade journal or take pictures and use Snapfish or an online slideshow to present the images.
Collage: Looking for pictures in magazines or online to build a gratitude collage is a fun family project. And no artistic talent required! All that cutting is also a great way for your child to build fine motor skills.
– Sandi Schwartz