Moms: Make Yourself a Priority
Raising kids is one of the most life-changing and rewarding times of your life, but it can also be exhausting and draining. Moms typically put their kids’ needs above their own, but moms need to make time for themselves. Use these seven ways to make yourself a priority.
Find your tribe
Having a group of friends that understand what it’s like to raise children, work, maintain a healthy lifestyle, and commit to a loving marriage is important for moms to feel “normal” and supported. Moms groups, online meetups, book clubs or church groups are great places to connect with other moms.
Set aside time
Between running errands, extracurricular activities, housework and spending time with your kids, it can be hard to set aside time for yourself. Spending time alone, with your spouse (without your kids), and with friends is so important for moms to feel energized for another day. Add time for you to the family calendar to assure that it happens on a regular basis and any child care needs are met.
A good exercise routine not only keeps you healthy and fit, but it can also help you feel better about yourself, as well as give you an extra energy boost for the long days of mothering. Exercise can also give you a chance to listen to a podcast, audiobook or music while working out. If your exercise takes you outside, you get an added boost of Vitamin D, which has been proven to help you feel happier too.
Moms work hard. Allow yourself a treat such as a coffee, a new outfit, a fresh haircut, pedicure or a sweet treat on occasion. Giving yourself permission to treat yourself can boost your mood and acknowledge that you work hard and deserve something special. You don’t have to spend a lot of time or money; it’s more about putting yourself first on occasion.
Talk to someone
Sometimes we just need someone to talk to about our feelings, and share the details of everyday life. Find a friend or family member to chat with on a regular basis. Some may find it helpful to talk to a counselor if you have a lot to work through, have dealt with depression or feel like you could use some unbiased advice.
Take up a hobby
What do you love to do? Many moms find they have forgotten the hobbies they used to enjoy prior to kids. Seek out an old hobby or find a new one – reading, running, sewing, scrapbooking whatever activity gets you excited. Whether you do your hobby with a group of friends or on your own, you will not regret making time for something that is important to you.
Ask for help
Moms are used to helping others and many of us have a hard time reaching out for help. However, when a friend asks, we are the first to offer assistance. Give others a chance to help you: set up a carpool so you are not always the one playing taxi with the kids for their after school activities; accept help when offered; or trade babysitting with a friend, so you can have a much needed date night. If your significant other offers to help out around the house, let them, even if it isn’t exactly the way you would have done it.
– Sarah Lyons